Confused and hurt :(

[Ritz_Crackers]

Just have a three some. At least that way YOU can be satisfied and have some closure, lowal!

[shelim]

HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE HOE

Thats all i gotta say... worthless, your boyfriend is stupid for even letting back in the house let alone forgive....

[Zero]

You know its actually surprising that she was forgiven, I must say.

[teardrops]

I just dont understand why his brother is acting weird we've all moved on hes forgiven me why cant he just be normal

[Evil_Genious]

I'll tell you why. Because it 'burns'.

And when it burns, that's when he'll do stuff to spoil your plans and fun. But, the reality is, you're fulfilling the most evil act a woman can do: break blood ties via your own weaknesses. I don't want to go in and judge on you, whatever, life brings its challenges and each is different for each person.

I can't say if he's grown some feelings for you, only you can answer that question. But, think about it. You fucked him and now he listens in on your conversations with his brother, stamps his feet to let you know he knows you and him are in the same place at the same time.. Think about it.... He has some feeling toward you, how strong they are is anyone's guess. But they're strong enough arn't they?

I would say, its time for growth. At the moment, you're choosing to live as a 'homewrecker' paint it whatever colour you want. That's what it is. You'll forever live with that stigma. Until, and if you truly feel remorse, you move on. You can't feel shame for drinking piss and continue to live in a pisshouse. You have to move out to move on. Let the brothers salvage some sort of relationship with each other. You're being the selfish one here, not his brother and not your so called boyfriend.

[Spider Pig]

tell me what's your favourite position and I will tell you why he's acting weird

[teardrops]

I'll tell you why. Because it 'burns'.

And when it burns, that's when he'll do stuff to spoil your plans and fun. But, the reality is, you're fulfilling the most evil act a woman can do: break blood ties via your own weaknesses. I don't want to go in and judge on you, whatever, life brings its challenges and each is different for each person.

I can't say if he's grown some feelings for you, only you can answer that question. But, think about it. You fucked him and now he listens in on your conversations with his brother, stamps his feet to let you know he knows you and him are in the same place at the same time.. Think about it.... He has some feeling toward you, how strong they are is anyone's guess. But they're strong enough arn't they?

I would say, its time for growth. At the moment, you're choosing to live as a 'homewrecker' paint it whatever colour you want. That's what it is. You'll forever live with that stigma. Until, and if you truly feel remorse, you move on. You can't feel shame for drinking piss and continue to live in a pisshouse. You have to move out to move on. Let the brothers salvage some sort of relationship with each other. You're being the selfish one here, not his brother and not your so called boyfriend.

@ Evil Genious:

Your absolutly right and thanks for that. I am trying to move on but my boyfriend is reluctant in letting me go 'cos' of his brother! He does not want his brother to be the reason to his unhappiness and loneliness. I haven't seen him since ramadhan.

He thinks if we break up his brother will win and be happy and he doesnt want that ...


:-(

[Guji-Ji]

Btw, what's the fact he's mixed race got to do with anything?

[Evil_Genious]

@ Evil Genious:

Your absolutly right and thanks for that. I am trying to move on but my boyfriend is reluctant in letting me go 'cos' of his brother! He does not want his brother to be the reason to his unhappiness and loneliness. I haven't seen him since ramadhan.

He thinks if we break up his brother will win and be happy and he doesnt want that ...


:-(

Teardrop. Trust me. In this situation, nobody is a winner and nobody will win - ever. Things like these are difficult and the decison has to come from within. Remember, the longer you stay, the more difficult it gets. If you adament that you want to stay with your boyfriend. You should move out together. Move out and away from his brother. That's the only way. If you bring a child into this world, remember should that kid ever sense tension between you and their uncle and should they ever uncover the truth - you'll have to face up to that someday.

I won't say what's right and what's wrong. But, you are at a junction in the road right now. It's your choice which path you want to walk, but remember when you choose that path. Don't cower away from your mistakes. If you stay, you have to get used to living with them - they'll accompany you 'til the absolute end.

[MiSs]

@ Evil Genious:

Your absolutly right and thanks for that. I am trying to move on but my boyfriend is reluctant in letting me go 'cos' of his brother! He does not want his brother to be the reason to his unhappiness and loneliness. I haven't seen him since ramadhan.

He thinks if we break up his brother will win and be happy and he doesnt want that ...


:-(

He must really love you if he forgave you so quickly after doing something like that...
Your really lucky

If you really do want to move on, dont let your boyfriend stop you.

Its your choice what you decide to do. But I doubt things are going to get better for you or him.....

Btw. Are you muslim? Hows your fasting going? (you mentioned ramadan)

[playa4life55]

6 months ago I had a fling with my mixed raced boyfriends brother. Things were on the rocks between me and my him I was really confused and upset. So without thinking straight I went and did something really stupid and had an affair with his brother we ended up sleeping together.

I regret it a lot I feel really low about what I did. I was honest with my boyfriend and told him everything. He knows about everything that took place and managed to forgive me. Everything is kind of normal when I go back to his (He still lives with his family and bro) I still feel so ashamed I haven't forgiven myself for what I did yet.

But When ever I'm at his house and his brother becomes aware of it. He bangs doors and thumps about the place his room is just above my boyfriends and he purposely thumps about to make us aware of his presence. Many times he'd continiously run down stairs to the bathroom which is right next to my boyfriends room, then a few minutes later we'll hear creaking and its obvious that he's tring to eavesdrop it gets really uncomfortable for us to get intimate or just act normal or be able to have a confidetial conversation when he's at the house.

I just dont know what to do to ignore what his brothers I dont know what point hes trying to prove by doing all that thumping about


p.s I dont except much sympathy for what I did but I am remorseful

simple..!! leave ya bf and get on wid ya life..! altho it sounds harsh but ya past is ya past..!! ppl make mistakes and we learn from it..!! thts life..!! i kno its a bitch but thts tht..!! its no point bein uncomfortable and hurt all ya life coz ov the sin u commitid coz theres alwaiz redemption and repentance remember tht..!! i sai allow it cos if ya gna feel like tht all ya life then it eint worth it..!! think abt it..!! evrydai u gna see the act u commitid..!! u gna feel like shit evrytime u see it..!! nw tell me is tht worth it..?? move on with ur life and leave the past wer it is..!! make yaself a better person i kno u av the strength in u 2 do tht..!! peace..!!

[Sunshine]

Your absolutly right and thanks for that. I am trying to move on but my boyfriend is reluctant in letting me go 'cos' of his brother! He does not want his brother to be the reason to his unhappiness and loneliness. I haven't seen him since ramadhan.

He thinks if we break up his brother will win and be happy and he doesnt want that ...

:-(

So is he only back with you to spite his brother?

[queen bee]

Wow, doesn't that put things into context for you?

So many people chuck the word Love about... without respecting it.

[playa4life55]

yes welcome to the real world queen bee

[teardrops]

yes welcome to the real world queen bee

Thank you Mr Playa4life atleast some people live in the real world