Would U Forgive?

[MR WHO]

jus been curious............
would you forgive the people who betray you?
family/friends?
latly noticed alot of people been asking for forgiveness....

i could if i want too..... but chosen not to since its more fun watching them beg/suffer........

so what would you do? forgive the trators? or watch them go crazyyyy?

[Evil_Genious]

There's several ways of looking at it. LOL..

The bigger man would forgive and forget. But motherfuck that, the intelligent man will forgive but never forget. Trust should be a thing that once given should be treated as sacred.. If they break it, don't give it to them again. Should the act be repeated, who's to blame - you.

So, forgive, but remember like an elephant. There WILL come a time where you may or may not lend support in trying times to that person, then you can return the deepest of paybacks. Don't support them.

What you're revelling is the physical show of suffering, this is school shit. The true pleasure is in mental anguish, that's where the art of war comes into play.... I would forgive, as anger takes effort - and effort spent is effort lost to that person (they win). Forgive but never forget and learn from this event before something bigger happen (you win).....

[~*Anonymous*~]

Depends on who it is. Friends I'm not sure I could forgive and if I did it would be as EG said... forgive but don't forget.

But when it comes to family it's a completely different story. It's hard not to forgive your family especially siblings. I've forgiven my sister for 'betraying' me, I know she really regrets what she did so I did let it go but things aren't the same between us I am more cautious with her.
And again with parents, it's hard not to forgive them. I suppose because you spend a lot of time with family it's only natural to forgive.

And this whole making them suffer thing won't work, I think once someone hurts you they can do it again so just be wary of them in future.

[Iroquois Pliskin]

Honestly.. Just forgive the person, and not forgetting what they did is a different thing altogether. End of the day he/she'll say, I asked for forgiveness and they decided not to forgive me, depending on how long you given it a thought on whether to forgive them.

[Spider Pig]

Depends on the circumstances. Some teenage type back-biting can be forgiven but if it's more serious then you can say fuck it and move on. If it's really personal then I would do the same, just move on rather forgive and try and be friends. If the person wants forgiveness and you think they deserve it because they're genuinely sorry etc. then you could forgive but not forget, and again I wouldn't really like to be associated with that person again even if I did forgive.

Watching them beg/suffer as you say is just lame, there are so many variables that you would have to consider it's not worth it i.e. that person could be having a tough time in their life and wants to rectify some mistakes they have made and may now have improved as a person so just playing with them could fuck them up even more. I would rather just say they're forgiven but I wouldn't be friends with them and would just move on and ask them to as well. Just depends though as some things just can't be forgiven or forgotten.

[Evil_Genious]

SP the Illusion - how would you deal with someone who say is at your uni and you see that person in your lectures etc. all the time, how you going to 'move on' in that situation. What if they constant all up in your personal with the sorrys?

[Pretzel]

I've had arguments with people, some minor and some major... anyways i have forgiven as i don't want to lead and ill start in my next rebirth... but i wont ever forget.

[Crazy.Chicka]

So your Gundam! lol!

Depends on what the person has done. But im not one to hold grudges, so id forgive the person but never forget, gotta be careful so it doesnt happen again!

But id never make them beg or suffer, its not my place to punish them!

[Spider Pig]

SP the Illusion - how would you deal with someone who say is at your uni and you see that person in your lectures etc. all the time, how you going to 'move on' in that situation. What if they constant all up in your personal with the sorrys?

Then you gotta up your conscience game and I would personally be like 'ok, I forgive but I won't forget. I still don't want you around me so keep outta my space but you can move on with your life knowing that I've forgiven you and that shits the past, a memory, learn from it and move on'. It also depends though if what they did was really wack then I couldn't forgive and I would be like 'get out of my way, I've moved on you need to as well, shit ain't guna work out so forget it'. Sometimes you can forgive and not forget but it takes time to build the bridge again, it can even be built stronger than before, it just depends on the situation.

It might just be me but I can blank out shit like that just move with it, it's very difficult and I couldn't do it when I was younger but now I can just look through the situation and see nothing but the scenery behind. Most of the time it's just not worth taking up space in your mind.

[Evil_Genious]

Can't argue with that.

[MR WHO]

(crazy chicka girl)
whatever u herd about me isnt true........
i dont flirt, i dont chat up girls, i dont say the word ''what u sayin''
im a average religous man...



anyways
alot of different feed back.............

well whatever the case some good point.......

an spiggy resent post.....makes sence...........

anyways.......i got about 4 people in my life.....ill never forgive.........them people
knw ill always keep a grudge..........

one of the grudge lasted for 7 years........... so for that person im makin a living hell of there life....since i dont like lieyin i always shit stire............

even did that at a wedding to make my point nutting is OK wid me.....
i ant gnna predent......

in the past i used to like try and pretend and try shut it out my mind.....but it takes the piss......so gtta face reality an start hating.....

mostly lying pisses me off......some twat got some unplanned lies, if u say some b*shizz lie to me of coz im gnna clock on.......

i got txt mssg full of lies..... reading them is jus jokes...makes me crack up......
keepin them for levrage.........

[Zero]

Depending on the situation, you could forget but don't forgive?
Bitter yes, but maybe they should know they've done something wrong.
I personally think life's too short to not forgive anyone; after all we're a dying species. We don't live forever. If you don't forgive someone now, that might cause a butterfly effect somewhere later down the descendants. A very different view of Karma, I guess, (I don't believe in Karma btw).

[$ing$tar]

No i dont forgive specially if they done something really bad id rather move on in life but if its something minor il let them back in

[suupaa]

I don't forget and forgive. I pretend everything is fine and keep on living my life. They've done enough, not gonna let them keep ruining things for me so I stay strong. I don't trust people easily because all they do is lie and once they do.. thats it for me, cant trust them again. They had their chance. I'm so used to betrayal I'm almost numb to it. Wouldn't give a f*** if they all went to hell. People suck.

[MiSs]

Alot of people have done unforgiving things to me and my family.
Many many times, Iv lost count actually.

Would I forgive?
Depends on the individual and the extent of damage...

But.
If they seriously. honestly in their heart, came up to me many years later.

And asked for forgiveness.

I would most probably forgive them.......but NEVER forget.

I wouldnt hold it to them and treat them differently if I saw them everyday after they corrected themselves/asked for forgiveness.

BUT. If they betrayed me or my family again.

Then nope. I wouldnt forgive them again. no matter what.

I think you should give people one chance after they make a mistake.
Everybodys different, everybodys got shit going on in their lives, everybodys got problems. Sometimes it all gets too MUCH. And they end up saying, or doing something without thinking twice (or maybe influnced by another?)

So thats why you should give them another chance. Just ONE if they willing to put it right.

But If they F88k up again. F88k them and move on this time.
No more chances.