Doesn't feel real...

[Pretzel]

Hallo, satsriakal, namaste and salaams....

Not been here since i died my hair... which was many moons ago... lame opening joke, okay.. baas.

Basically, have you ever been in a relationship and its all good in the hood, but when you sit back it doesnt feel like your actually in a relationship... it feels weird saying you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?

maybe you would feel like that because you've not had many serious relationships or you've been single for a long time?

Or its not 'very you' to be in a good healthy relationship? lol.

feedbacks appreciatings x

[Tariq2009]

I am uncomfortable with the idea of being labelled as being somebody's or belonging to someone ie he's 'my man' or 'my hubby'

then again most people wouldn't consider me the prototype guy.

the idea that we should be in a relationship/marriage is purely a social concept. Is it natural, well that's hard to assess. Looking at the Animal World, you got monogamous animals and you got animals on some Tiger Woods shit.

[Evil_Genious]

LOL yeah. They're called having relationships with a next man's girl... You have to act like you not doing nuffin when in public....

[Pretzel]

LOL at the above... no i dont mean having a relationship with "next mans girl"
just two ordinary people, but it feels weird for you to be the boyfriend/girlfriend? maybe its just the label, i guess you dont have to label it.

[M4RN1]

Theres no spark in the relationship, and everything seems weird. Proper loved up couples cling on to each other
Otherwise it's just a man you need next to you because a partner is now an 'accessory' to your social life.

[Pretzel]

Spark thing could be true yes.... what if u feel thats as far as its gonna get with romance n all that magic? or maybe your just not as sentimentle n mushy?

[Evil_Genious]

Can't say I have had that feeling tbh.

Perhaps you're in a relationship, just to 'be in a relationship' nowamean. Or maybe you don't really have the right chemistry with this dude. I doubt it's the label thing, coz the right dude will have you wanting to call yourself his girl. You're relationship might be too ordinary, nothing wrong with a bit of raw lust unless you're wanting to get married straight away. He just might be too boring, but you might like him.

Duno duno dun no. But specubation asside you might have jumped the lun-I-mean gun and committed to a relationship you're not ready for.. My breast advice wood be to take a break from seeing him for a lil while, maybe a week? See if you when you do see him, you feel something on the buzzor..... Else maybe you're just passing time before you find me.

[Pretzel]

That last paragraph lost me.. Hi EG, we've not spoken in a long time...number?

Yes what your saying makes sense, it could be alot of those things... its just admitting them to yourself.

Also it could be that you just like to calll yourself 'single' as opposed to 'taken'...'tied down'....'OWNED'
Because it does feel abit like that when you say boyfriend...girlfriend...and seeing other people relationships can be very offputting.

[Evil_Genious]

You know, I've never really called anyone I've been with my "girlfriend" or "my other half" like white people do. Coz it's overrated, you give such affectionate and endearing names that by definition implies there's a love or deep love respectively, but in reality - there's anything but. It's like a fashion statement, like an accessory. Oh do you have an iPhone.... Sounds materialistic. Even though it's supposed to be the opposite of materialistic, it feels artificial.

I guess it's because one day it's this girl next month it's that girl. I know this one dude at work that I've been on the same team with for the last 4 years. Every Monday he'd come and talk about what he and his "(my) other half" have been doing over the weekend. Then he shows up saying - he doesn't love her anymore and he annoys her.. Saying "my other half" is such a strong statement, it says that this person makes you complete - every 'single' (geddit) time you say it. I dunno. I'm sidetracking - I'm just tryna' say calling yourself someone's this or that is overrated. And doesn't mean shit...

I know if my girl kept talking about me as her 'boyfriend' I'd be that sounds wack. But, it's delicate coz if you say that - it will just lead to a whole discussion (fight) about why she shouldn't call you that.

I would say being single for a while isn't so bad, if you haven't been that way in a while try it.... The freedom is best tasted when youth....

EG still posting on AP MOFOOOOOOWZE.

[Pretzel]

Yeah... sounds materialistic, we both agreed it did sound overrated as much as whack.

Ohwell aslong as its keeping us happy now.

[mindstate]

[Hiroshi]

Short answer? If you're already having doubts about a relationship, you've already got your answer..

[DJ B4VVY]

No because if they do like each other but there's some other bits they don't like, they can talk through and work it out and aslong as they're willing to compromise, there's no need for them to break up! It's hard to find a partner these days!

[Hiroshi]

No because if they do like each other but there's some other bits they don't like, they can talk through and work it out and aslong as they're willing to compromise, there's no need for them to break up! It's hard to find a partner these days!

That's not what Pretzel was trying to get at I think.. Everybody has imperfections obviously.

[DJ B4VVY]

That's not what Pretzel was trying to get at I think.. Everybody has imperfections obviously.

Sorry, my last post was actually a reply to yourself