Losing Trust

[shelim]

Originally Posted by Ranj Most likely, if he hasn't said anything 'rude' or 'uncalled' for to you, then he's busy with work and uni - yes, he has a life beyond just you. Which you yourself should have too. If you base your entire life around a guy who you aren't even married too, then your kind of setting yourself up for trouble. Focus your priorities and add him in around that.

perfect way to put it really... ranj hit the nail on the head... as well as nesbit...

you need to realise he may be busy whether its uni or family or whatever... but if your so scared to ask why even bring it up...? i know it may seem silly saying this but if your that concerned why havent you asked him alsready?

you say your scared of him having a go at you, any understanding boyfriend should be able to make his other half understand that he is doing such and such... why you so scared of him? why would he have a go at you for no reason...? and if he is and does have a go at you for no reason then what you doing in the relationship, BEING A DOORMAT?

Wake up and smell the coffee and pluck up teh courage to ask him... sorry but not sure if anyone has put it to you so bluntly but you seriously need to stop witht e whole "im scared" its not helping you now and if you prolong asking him your only going to hurt yourself if he has any bad news to tell you...

best of luck

[Lady Shyne]

You need to put ur man on lock gyalfriend!!

[xXxshortyxXx]

I Understand were your coming from.. i went through the same thing..
and thats what he wanted my trust levels for him 2 drop.. we end it and he lives happily ever after with the his white bitch.. but now he is regretting and wants to get back.. and im never guna let it happen!!..

Back to you.. confront him b4 its tooooo late hun.. other wise your guna be hurt!

[Axii]

get on with Uni, get a 1st....dont be letin this bring you down..

like sumone once told me you have to loveyourslef sumtimes..

nows the time.

[Rab C Nesbit]

Shelim.
I didn't realise you were normal.

Good Stuffs.

[Guji-Ji]

Going back to my earlier point... I can understand why a guy needs space and might busy and all that but surely being in a relationship you have decency to tell other half?

[Lancashire]

With all due respect, hounding me with texts would get on my nerves too. You're overly keen which in my opinion, will end it. Play it cool, men like that. If you stopped texting altogether then if he has any feelings for you he will text you off his own back. If he texts you tonight, ignore it and reply tomorrow afternoon with ONE txt Keep the guy on his toes!

[queen bee]

Why do people have these expectations in a relationship. That's why you get paranoid and 'lose trust', you set yourself up for it. 'My man (or bitch) must text me back 0.25 seconds after every hundreth text I send. He/she must call me at 10.00pm on the dot, otherwise I shall assume he/shes bangin' someone else.'

I would actually get so bored of that, so so bored. It's too fake sweetysweety i love you, disgustingly nice 24 7 would drive me insane!

Also, what happened to openly sharing your thoughts/feelings with your other half without worrying about them over reacting?

Hmm.

On a side note. You should be wearing the trousers AND the boxers, my love.

[Rab C Nesbit]

Queen Bee, I love you.

The guy I'm seeing told me about his rendez vous with a woman in a sari at an event I was meant to accompany him to, I told him that I couldn't reply to his text one day, cause I was busy losing my arse virginity.

Yea, we're sluts.
But we're open with each other about it, so there's no fussing or crying going on.

Couples need to start conversating.
Talking every night does Jack Shit.

[queen bee]

Rab C Nesbit, I want a PM every 2 minutes now

Lol, hah. I can't stand homotional guys. 'Fuck you bitch, gimmie kiss' is probably the most sentimental my guy needs to be

[Scrooge]

Originally Posted by DJ B4VVY DMX ???

yes indeed

[Enchantress]

Why are you in a relationship with a guy you're afraid to talk to/be open with?

And how, with the aforementioned, can you possibly be "in love" with him?

[Rab C Nesbit]

Queen B, as long as it's my name he's whispering into my hair, I'm happy...

Oh, and a bit of Post Coital Cuddling is always welcome.

[Memphis]

Originally Posted by Rab C Nesbit Stop being such a fucking girl! He's got a life. He's at uni. So what if he only gets to text you late at night...? He's texting you isn't he? He might just be busy! ....Or, surprise, surprise - after a certain amount of time being "together" continuously with someone, people need space! If people are so quick to jump to conclusions and get jealous, it's better they don't get into relationships in the first place. If it's bugging you so much, ask him. If it's "love" and all that, he should be able to tell you truthfully. Obviously, things aren't so Bollywood in real life, and you should go with your gut instincts... But, being a girl and shit, it's easy to jump the gun.

Dam

Best post ever...

[D351-GUND4M]

man...u people being sort of rawww blaaad....

naaa i get what the girl is saying.....

i defo understand what she chattin about....

cuz its a fear u have init....
u fear this and that, and later you realise its true....

but u always blanked it out....

in the end ya left feeling like the 'fool'

but yet u never can be angry at them an just take ur anger out...

ya end up hating an getting all vexxing an shit, end up punching the damn wall...

lol i did that...end up punchin the damn door...in my room...
an all it was just the lies...thats made ya all vexxing if the truth was said ages b4 then its cool....but ya just left with getting played like a fool without knwin nuttin....

meh shit happens thats why i wear 2 masks...