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kuzko · 11-02-2009, 16:32

hiya. x i was wondering is anyone here are losing trust to their otherhalf?
xxx

my bf and me we been only for 8 months, we used to talk to eatch other all the time, and he used to show his love and care for me, he is a great guy. but now i noticed since december, he seems to be less incontact with me.

he hardly calls, or when i call he never picks up, and when he does call back or txt back he always seems to text back when its late night. i know his time table of what he does; but yet he never shows any sign of contacting me. once he snapt at me

text me saying ive filled up his inbox, and i should wait for him to text back then i should txt back.
its like as if his hiding something, we hardly see eatch other; i understand im busy with university and he is busy with work and university, so we try stay in touch by text or msn, we dont much call, since my perents will always be nosy.

but even on msn he never seems to be online, and when i text him he just does not reply, sometimes i get so angry. i dont know what to do

i care for him so much, and want to spend rest of my life with him. but i dont understand why is he gones do quiet and secretive. he is hiding something from me, when i ask him how are you, or what are you doing its like he dont want to tell me, sometimes i get strange text messeges from him that really dont make any sence.

im just scared that he might have found someone else and is always busy with them, and cast me on the side

and only feels like to contact me when he is bored.

i feel soo angry and jelous, i dont know what to do...i cant confront him, im just too scared he might snap at me.

if only he can be truthful and tell me, if he has found someone else ill be happy for him, i would be sad and upset, but i love him so much, that i dont want to belive he is a lier. i really dont know what to do...
i just wish he shows that its hurting me inside; i do hope im not just being used.

has anyone experiance this? or done somthing like this?
one thing is its best to be honest to that person, if you just hide things you wont realise how much it hurts them. xxx
thank you.
xxx

MiSs · 11-02-2009, 16:44

Somethings definatly wrong. or else he wouldnt suddenly change like this.

Speak to him. Confront him. Its the only way....

Scrooge · 11-02-2009, 16:47

'' here we go again, same old shit dawg, just another day...''

kuzko · 11-02-2009, 16:49

Originally Posted by MiSs

Somethings definatly wrong. or else he wouldnt suddenly change like this.

Speak to him. Confront him. Its the only way....

i dont know how to confront him.

im to scared and im to little

xxx

mr scrooge? xxx?

Guji-Ji · 11-02-2009, 17:05

As people have said confront him. Maybe there's something wrong, maybe there isn't but at least you'd know instead of thinking like this. And if there is something wrong shouldn't he tell you? I thought that's what happened in relationships.

It's no point being his partner if he isn't going to treat you like one. Relationships are 2 ways things.

D351-GUND4M · 11-02-2009, 18:14

''the darkness of mens heart cused by those sin''

i know how you feel....

guess you can do is spill the beans....and tell him what DA FUK is wrong with him,
but still its 'easer said then done'

MojoJojo · 11-02-2009, 18:21

Originally Posted by Scrooge

'' here we go again, same old shit dawg, just another day...''

Definately.

Originally Posted by Guji-Ji

As people have said confront him. Maybe there's something wrong, maybe there isn't but at least you'd know instead of thinking like this. And if there is something wrong shouldn't he tell you? I thought that's what happened in relationships.

It's no point being his partner if he isn't going to treat you like one. Relationships are 2 ways things.

Down to a T. This is what you have to do - infact Guji i'm gonna have to set this reply to copy+paste; so in future i can just reference it!

BlackmaideN · 11-02-2009, 18:36

sounds like he lost interest, probably because his mind is preoccupied by his studies or another woman.

Guji-Ji · 11-02-2009, 18:38

Originally Posted by MojoJojo

Definately.

Down to a T. This is what you have to do - infact Guji i'm gonna have to set this reply to copy+paste; so in future i can just reference it!

Lol not bad for someone who has never been in one...

D351-GUND4M · 11-02-2009, 18:45

Originally Posted by BlackmaideN

sounds like he lost interest, probably because his mind is preoccupied by his studies or another woman.

that sounds about right.......
meh..... dont think its studies probally another girl,

yo kukzco
what can yaa do, guess its up to ya to find a solution?

u good at spying?

come blackmaiden...we must take revenge on the world...

''will you be my valentines''

MojoJojo · 11-02-2009, 18:46

Originally Posted by Guji-Ji

Lol not bad for someone who has never been in one...

Doesn't matter, it's called common sense. Alot of people go with they're heart and not they're brains in a relationship - i'm not gonna say anymore just incase someone revives that grad/not-grad/common sense thread lol.

No offence to Kuzko, i'm just speaking generally.

DJ B4VVY · 11-02-2009, 20:23

Originally Posted by Scrooge

'' here we go again, same old shit dawg, just another day...''

DMX ???

Rab C Nesbit · 11-02-2009, 23:32

Stop being such a fucking girl!

He's got a life.
He's at uni.
So what if he only gets to text you late at night...? He's texting you isn't he?
He might just be busy!
....Or, surprise, surprise - after a certain amount of time being "together" continuously with someone, people need space!

If people are so quick to jump to conclusions and get jealous, it's better they don't get into relationships in the first place.

If it's bugging you so much, ask him.
If it's "love" and all that, he should be able to tell you truthfully.

Obviously, things aren't so Bollywood in real life, and you should go with your gut instincts...
But, being a girl and shit, it's easy to jump the gun.

D351-GUND4M · 11-02-2009, 23:38

KUZKO......

that what you wrote made me depressed...

but.... the truth is out, and now i can be sure to move on....

now i realise.....some lies are hidden for a reason....
but, as long as i show that i wont react and show ill cheer them on then thats all that matters for their happyness...

kuzko...plz go an tell him that.....and thank you for givin me the right direction of asking....i never had the courage until now...
thanks...........

Ranj · 12-02-2009, 07:25

Most likely, if he hasn't said anything 'rude' or 'uncalled' for to you, then he's busy with work and uni - yes, he has a life beyond just you. Which you yourself should have too. If you base your entire life around a guy who you aren't even married too, then your kind of setting yourself up for trouble. Focus your priorities and add him in around that.

11-02-2009, 16:32	#1 (permalink)
kuzko Member Location: Brummy Age: 21 Gender: Female Country: Posts: 375 My Mood: Rep Power: 24 Rep Level:	Losing Trust hiya. x i was wondering is anyone here are losing trust to their otherhalf? xxx my bf and me we been only for 8 months, we used to talk to eatch other all the time, and he used to show his love and care for me, he is a great guy. but now i noticed since december, he seems to be less incontact with me. he hardly calls, or when i call he never picks up, and when he does call back or txt back he always seems to text back when its late night. i know his time table of what he does; but yet he never shows any sign of contacting me. once he snapt at me text me saying ive filled up his inbox, and i should wait for him to text back then i should txt back. its like as if his hiding something, we hardly see eatch other; i understand im busy with university and he is busy with work and university, so we try stay in touch by text or msn, we dont much call, since my perents will always be nosy. but even on msn he never seems to be online, and when i text him he just does not reply, sometimes i get so angry. i dont know what to do i care for him so much, and want to spend rest of my life with him. but i dont understand why is he gones do quiet and secretive. he is hiding something from me, when i ask him how are you, or what are you doing its like he dont want to tell me, sometimes i get strange text messeges from him that really dont make any sence. im just scared that he might have found someone else and is always busy with them, and cast me on the side and only feels like to contact me when he is bored. i feel soo angry and jelous, i dont know what to do...i cant confront him, im just too scared he might snap at me. if only he can be truthful and tell me, if he has found someone else ill be happy for him, i would be sad and upset, but i love him so much, that i dont want to belive he is a lier. i really dont know what to do... i just wish he shows that its hurting me inside; i do hope im not just being used. has anyone experiance this? or done somthing like this? one thing is its best to be honest to that person, if you just hide things you wont realise how much it hurts them. xxx thank you. xxx KiSs KiSs KiSs KU KU KU KU KU KU KU KU KU KU KU KUZKO

11-02-2009, 16:44	#2 (permalink)
MiSs Loyal Member Location: SsShhh BsShhh :) Gender: Female Country: Posts: 3,190 My Mood: I have 2 Blog Entries Rep Power: 199 Rep Level:	Somethings definatly wrong. or else he wouldnt suddenly change like this. Speak to him. Confront him. Its the only way.... Swearing is an illiterate way to talk/argue Please refrain from ebullying/putting other members down just because of your own hidden insecurities!!! (tehee =) ) Thanking you

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Guji-Ji Respected Member Location: London Age: 20 Gender: Male Country: Posts: 13,381 I have 6 Blog Entries Rep Power: 503 Rep Level:	As people have said confront him. Maybe there's something wrong, maybe there isn't but at least you'd know instead of thinking like this. And if there is something wrong shouldn't he tell you? I thought that's what happened in relationships. It's no point being his partner if he isn't going to treat you like one. Relationships are 2 ways things. ^^Thanks to the Evil_G^^ Last edited by Guji-Ji; 11-02-2009 at 17:06.

11-02-2009, 18:14	#6 (permalink)
D351-GUND4M Loyal Member Location: ガンダム Throne London ''HYPE DA FUNK'' Age: 24 Gender: Male Country: Posts: 3,720 My Mood: I have 4 Blog Entries Rep Power: 153 Rep Level:	''the darkness of mens heart cused by those sin'' i know how you feel.... guess you can do is spill the beans....and tell him what DA FUK is wrong with him, but still its 'easer said then done' Gundam ''Last Showdown'' Some People are Sweet an Yet so Bitter...So Best Thing To Do is Sour Them...That Way There Rotten Last edited by D351-GUND4M; 11-02-2009 at 18:18.

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BlackmaideN Advanced Member Location: birmingham Gender: Male Country: Posts: 610 My Mood: Rep Power: 88 Rep Level:	sounds like he lost interest, probably because his mind is preoccupied by his studies or another woman.

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Rab C Nesbit Forum Addict! Location: Dystopia Age: 30 Gender: Female Country: Posts: 1,916 My Mood: Rep Power: 186 Rep Level:	Stop being such a fucking girl! He's got a life. He's at uni. So what if he only gets to text you late at night...? He's texting you isn't he? He might just be busy! ....Or, surprise, surprise - after a certain amount of time being "together" continuously with someone, people need space! If people are so quick to jump to conclusions and get jealous, it's better they don't get into relationships in the first place. If it's bugging you so much, ask him. If it's "love" and all that, he should be able to tell you truthfully. Obviously, things aren't so Bollywood in real life, and you should go with your gut instincts... But, being a girl and shit, it's easy to jump the gun. I am Confidence and Insecurity. Evil Genious is My Budden Man.

11-02-2009, 23:38	#14 (permalink)
D351-GUND4M Loyal Member Location: ガンダム Throne London ''HYPE DA FUNK'' Age: 24 Gender: Male Country: Posts: 3,720 My Mood: I have 4 Blog Entries Rep Power: 153 Rep Level:	KUZKO...... that what you wrote made me depressed... but.... the truth is out, and now i can be sure to move on.... now i realise.....some lies are hidden for a reason.... but, as long as i show that i wont react and show ill cheer them on then thats all that matters for their happyness... kuzko...plz go an tell him that.....and thank you for givin me the right direction of asking....i never had the courage until now... thanks........... Gundam ''Last Showdown'' Some People are Sweet an Yet so Bitter...So Best Thing To Do is Sour Them...That Way There Rotten

12-02-2009, 07:25	#15 (permalink)
Ranj Loyal Member Location: ' Gender: Female Posts: 2,412 Rep Power: 91 Rep Level:	Most likely, if he hasn't said anything 'rude' or 'uncalled' for to you, then he's busy with work and uni - yes, he has a life beyond just you. Which you yourself should have too. If you base your entire life around a guy who you aren't even married too, then your kind of setting yourself up for trouble. Focus your priorities and add him in around that. Peace, Love and Glee...

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