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queen bee · 25-05-2009, 15:08

Ever stop and think about who you are? who you really are.

Its strange, this life.. that some of us lead. The person that you think you are. It's strange, how it is full of contradictions. Your either honest about those, or your not. If your honest, you'll know all the different directions you've been pulled in and how much they contradict one another. The way some of us behave makes absolutely no sense to anyone in the outside world.

You've seen the sort, right. Out there, partaking in the real world and socializing with real people. Usually, they've a hand free to point the proverbial middle finger at a judgmental world.

I'm out there, dammit. Like any good hedonist, I am out there searching for the next high, in whatever form that is. (no, I'm not talking puff puff pass) I'm talking things that get you on a high, like talking your way into somewhere free. That drink you see in my hand? (the non-alcoholic one, hah) It was bought for me. General feel good shit. Regardless of whether there's any substance there..

I've never really understood women (and men) that are okay with going out on the piss every night, and putting themselves out in every indecent way possible. It never fails, though. Every raucous night out is followed by the crushing realisation that, when it's all said and done, you go home alone. And you wake up alone. All of these men who were so willing to buy you drinks before are just illusions meant to fade away as soon as the lights turn on. Maybe they will have gotten your number. Maybe they'll text you here and there. And maybe you'll respond out of social grace. But it's all the same vapid cycle. Just rinse, lather, repeat. Then you stop and think about who you are. Is that really you or is it a warped version of yourself through various encounters in your life.

There is this part of me that is searching for something deeper. Anything that falls in the traditional bracket, that defines me as I am. It's not necessarily a matter of finding love for most people, but a connection to someone that goes beyond the next available piece of eye candy. Can we strike a balance anymore? Do you know how to look beyond the disco ball and find something within that is fascinating.

We all forget that the shine wears off and if there's nothing there worth a damn, then what's the point, really? All you've got is empty conversation mixed with a lack of substance. That's a dangerous combination, one that I avoid at all costs. I am not one for shallow displays. And I get bored so easily with shiny, pretty things.

Invariably, Its the same thing every time, no matter where you are. If you just look. The same types of people, but with different faces, doing the same tired song and dance routine. The same flirt till it hurts, can-i-get-your-digits-babe routine. Same insecurities. Girls bent over and guys pretending to dance. I'll sit on his lap on the tube and snog his face off while everyone watches and it won't mean a thing to me, because I don't know you. It never changes...

How do you reconcile your distaste for the shallow with your hedonistic pursuit of it? If its the same shit, different toilet - why keep going? And if it doesn't apply to you, drop your two cents anyway..

queen bee · 25-05-2009, 16:46

10 views, no replies!

What bastards. Too busy replying to a 'word association thread', I presume.

mindstate · 25-05-2009, 16:54

lol ever thought people might be too busy revising

queen bee · 25-05-2009, 16:57

No, I'm not a very considerate person.

MojoJojo · 25-05-2009, 17:44

This post just screams "I'm in need of a friend and i need to talk right now" lol!

I'm selective with what bars and clubs i go to and particularly with who i go with. The crowd you go with can determine a good or bad night. Or if you're one of those people who can prance around like some social sex god then fair do's - each to they're own i guess.

Why do i go to bars or clubs? - to have a good time first and foremost, and that can be percieved in many different ways...which i'll leave to everybodies imagination because i'm sure not everyones out for fanny or penis.

Why do i keep going? - because its fun and relaxing at the same time, I find it fun. wheras some people may find it shallow/offensive/religious differences/other etc... Something you may consider shallow and crap maybe a crack addiction to someone else.

I guess some of it can be distasteful, but the positives always outweigh the negative side of it. I'm pretty optimistic about going out, as "going out" with friends is closely associated with "having a good time" so i'm always happy before hand - obviously as the night progresses other factors may come in - but it usually ends on a high.

I find that alot of people dwell on the negatives of life like emo's. When there is whole load of endorphins waiting for you.

StyLeZ · 25-05-2009, 17:51

your inconsiderate self is not worth my time then psshhtt lolz

uh i dont really get the question..maybe im just stupid lol..

M4RN1 · 25-05-2009, 18:33

Dr Phil can help you

M4RN1 · 25-05-2009, 18:38

Girls get 'on the low' very quickly, some use men as a tool of entertaintment but at the end get labelled slag.
Some just go on the bender and loose direction in life, some end their life and end up in the dark.
If you feel alone and lost and need a companion, dont ask for one or dont wish for one. Being alone is great.

queen bee · 25-05-2009, 18:45

Marni, I wasn't talking about myself. Or feeling lonely. Shit for brains?

My point is, what is this world, why do we indulge in the things we do if it is meaningless and doesn't make you any happier within. OR DOES IT?

StyleZ, remove yourself

MojoJojo, I'll reply properly later - but atleast you got the point!

Sunshine · 25-05-2009, 19:38

I suppose for some people, that moment isn't meaningless. Maybe it is the day after, but not there and then. Do we think of the consequences of our actions before we actually carry out the action or after. It's like doing something which is clearly wrong, but nonetheless going ahead and doing it anyway.

Like some guys/girls go out on the piss, get down and dirty with some next person and wake up the next day with a banging hangover. I've encountered girls who do that and the attitude they have is "I'm young and single and it's Friday night, what else am I supposed to do?"

It's sorta like... why did I buy those new shoes? I didn't really need them and omg they were so expensive, I am totally skint now. But yeah, I like how everyone keeps asking where I got my shoes from and telling me I look good in them. Do you see where I'm going... or not? lol... I'm making sense to myself... I shall come back and add more to this later.

StyLeZ · 25-05-2009, 19:52

lol this topic still makes no sense to me..

ill just do wat queen told me 2 do

aint i nice?

M4RN1 · 25-05-2009, 20:01

Originally Posted by queen bee

Marni, I wasn't talking about myself. Or feeling lonely. Shit for brains?
My point is, what is this world, why do we indulge in the things we do if it is meaningless and doesn't make you any happier within. OR DOES IT?

StyleZ, remove yourself

MojoJojo, I'll reply properly later - but atleast you got the point!

I wasnt talking about YOU just women in general. World revolves just around you?

M4RN1 · 25-05-2009, 20:03

Why we indulge in needless things? because we are 'heedless' (ghaflah-arabic) of our main PRIORITY.

The human desire and lust is easily diverted to the glitter and glamour of the temptations which is only a temporary fun.

IF somehow man is able to control every aspect of his desire and emotion that will enable his mind to be cleared and not be clouded- hence man can quest for the truth of his existence.

Aslong our willpower is in the fate of our desires, he is lost for good.

queen bee · 25-05-2009, 20:17

Originally Posted by M4RN1

I wasnt talking about YOU just women in general. World revolves just around you?

Nope, I was refering to your Dr. Phil post - which I didn't quite understand, but assumed was aimed at me

dunno's.

M4RN1 · 25-05-2009, 20:35

No problems, i always had judgements and assumptions thrown at me, I'll take this one on the cheek

25-05-2009, 15:08	#1 (permalink)
queen bee Loyal Member Location: Where the hoodrats at? Gender: Female Country: Posts: 2,190 My Mood: Rep Power: 238 Rep Level:	Who are you Ever stop and think about who you are? who you really are. Its strange, this life.. that some of us lead. The person that you think you are. It's strange, how it is full of contradictions. Your either honest about those, or your not. If your honest, you'll know all the different directions you've been pulled in and how much they contradict one another. The way some of us behave makes absolutely no sense to anyone in the outside world. You've seen the sort, right. Out there, partaking in the real world and socializing with real people. Usually, they've a hand free to point the proverbial middle finger at a judgmental world. I'm out there, dammit. Like any good hedonist, I am out there searching for the next high, in whatever form that is. (no, I'm not talking puff puff pass) I'm talking things that get you on a high, like talking your way into somewhere free. That drink you see in my hand? (the non-alcoholic one, hah) It was bought for me. General feel good shit. Regardless of whether there's any substance there.. I've never really understood women (and men) that are okay with going out on the piss every night, and putting themselves out in every indecent way possible. It never fails, though. Every raucous night out is followed by the crushing realisation that, when it's all said and done, you go home alone. And you wake up alone. All of these men who were so willing to buy you drinks before are just illusions meant to fade away as soon as the lights turn on. Maybe they will have gotten your number. Maybe they'll text you here and there. And maybe you'll respond out of social grace. But it's all the same vapid cycle. Just rinse, lather, repeat. Then you stop and think about who you are. Is that really you or is it a warped version of yourself through various encounters in your life. There is this part of me that is searching for something deeper. Anything that falls in the traditional bracket, that defines me as I am. It's not necessarily a matter of finding love for most people, but a connection to someone that goes beyond the next available piece of eye candy. Can we strike a balance anymore? Do you know how to look beyond the disco ball and find something within that is fascinating. We all forget that the shine wears off and if there's nothing there worth a damn, then what's the point, really? All you've got is empty conversation mixed with a lack of substance. That's a dangerous combination, one that I avoid at all costs. I am not one for shallow displays. And I get bored so easily with shiny, pretty things. Invariably, Its the same thing every time, no matter where you are. If you just look. The same types of people, but with different faces, doing the same tired song and dance routine. The same flirt till it hurts, can-i-get-your-digits-babe routine. Same insecurities. Girls bent over and guys pretending to dance. I'll sit on his lap on the tube and snog his face off while everyone watches and it won't mean a thing to me, because I don't know you. It never changes... How do you reconcile your distaste for the shallow with your hedonistic pursuit of it? If its the same shit, different toilet - why keep going? And if it doesn't apply to you, drop your two cents anyway..

25-05-2009, 18:33	#7 (permalink)
M4RN1 Bad Hair Day? Use A Comb! Location: Kingdom Heven Age: 24 Gender: Male Country: Posts: 11,082 My Mood: I have 7 Blog Entries Rep Power: 425 Rep Level:	Dr Phil can help you "Si Vis Pacem, Para Bellum". [De profundis clamo ad te domine]

25-05-2009, 18:38	#8 (permalink)
M4RN1 Bad Hair Day? Use A Comb! Location: Kingdom Heven Age: 24 Gender: Male Country: Posts: 11,082 My Mood: I have 7 Blog Entries Rep Power: 425 Rep Level:	Girls get 'on the low' very quickly, some use men as a tool of entertaintment but at the end get labelled slag. Some just go on the bender and loose direction in life, some end their life and end up in the dark. If you feel alone and lost and need a companion, dont ask for one or dont wish for one. Being alone is great. "Si Vis Pacem, Para Bellum". [De profundis clamo ad te domine]

25-05-2009, 19:38	#10 (permalink)
Sunshine Advanced Member Location: London Age: 25 Gender: Female Country: Posts: 913 My Mood: Rep Power: 85 Rep Level:	I suppose for some people, that moment isn't meaningless. Maybe it is the day after, but not there and then. Do we think of the consequences of our actions before we actually carry out the action or after. It's like doing something which is clearly wrong, but nonetheless going ahead and doing it anyway. Like some guys/girls go out on the piss, get down and dirty with some next person and wake up the next day with a banging hangover. I've encountered girls who do that and the attitude they have is "I'm young and single and it's Friday night, what else am I supposed to do?" It's sorta like... why did I buy those new shoes? I didn't really need them and omg they were so expensive, I am totally skint now. But yeah, I like how everyone keeps asking where I got my shoes from and telling me I look good in them. Do you see where I'm going... or not? lol... I'm making sense to myself... I shall come back and add more to this later. "This is your life and it's ending one minute at a time..."

25-05-2009, 20:03	#13 (permalink)
M4RN1 Bad Hair Day? Use A Comb! Location: Kingdom Heven Age: 24 Gender: Male Country: Posts: 11,082 My Mood: I have 7 Blog Entries Rep Power: 425 Rep Level:	Why we indulge in needless things? because we are 'heedless' (ghaflah-arabic) of our main PRIORITY. The human desire and lust is easily diverted to the glitter and glamour of the temptations which is only a temporary fun. IF somehow man is able to control every aspect of his desire and emotion that will enable his mind to be cleared and not be clouded- hence man can quest for the truth of his existence. Aslong our willpower is in the fate of our desires, he is lost for good. "Si Vis Pacem, Para Bellum". [De profundis clamo ad te domine] Last edited by M4RN1; 25-05-2009 at 20:06.

25-05-2009, 16:46	#2 (permalink)
queen bee Loyal Member Location: Where the hoodrats at? Gender: Female Country: Posts: 2,190 My Mood: Rep Power: 238 Rep Level:	10 views, no replies! What bastards. Too busy replying to a 'word association thread', I presume.

25-05-2009, 16:54	#3 (permalink)
mindstate Loyal Member Location: uk Gender: Male Country: Posts: 3,653 Rep Power: 272 Rep Level:	lol ever thought people might be too busy revising

25-05-2009, 16:57	#4 (permalink)
queen bee Loyal Member Location: Where the hoodrats at? Gender: Female Country: Posts: 2,190 My Mood: Rep Power: 238 Rep Level:	No, I'm not a very considerate person.

25-05-2009, 17:44	#5 (permalink)
MojoJojo Forum Addict! Tournaments Won: 1 Location: London Age: 23 Gender: Male Country: Posts: 1,105 My Mood: Rep Power: 218 Rep Level:	This post just screams "I'm in need of a friend and i need to talk right now" lol! I'm selective with what bars and clubs i go to and particularly with who i go with. The crowd you go with can determine a good or bad night. Or if you're one of those people who can prance around like some social sex god then fair do's - each to they're own i guess. Why do i go to bars or clubs? - to have a good time first and foremost, and that can be percieved in many different ways...which i'll leave to everybodies imagination because i'm sure not everyones out for fanny or penis. Why do i keep going? - because its fun and relaxing at the same time, I find it fun. wheras some people may find it shallow/offensive/religious differences/other etc... Something you may consider shallow and crap maybe a crack addiction to someone else. I guess some of it can be distasteful, but the positives always outweigh the negative side of it. I'm pretty optimistic about going out, as "going out" with friends is closely associated with "having a good time" so i'm always happy before hand - obviously as the night progresses other factors may come in - but it usually ends on a high. I find that alot of people dwell on the negatives of life like emo's. When there is whole load of endorphins waiting for you.

25-05-2009, 17:51	#6 (permalink)
StyLeZ Forum Addict! Location: in the streetz Gender: Male Country: Posts: 1,751 My Mood: Rep Power: 107 Rep Level:	your inconsiderate self is not worth my time then psshhtt lolz uh i dont really get the question..maybe im just stupid lol..

25-05-2009, 18:45	#9 (permalink)
queen bee Loyal Member Location: Where the hoodrats at? Gender: Female Country: Posts: 2,190 My Mood: Rep Power: 238 Rep Level:	Marni, I wasn't talking about myself. Or feeling lonely. Shit for brains? My point is, what is this world, why do we indulge in the things we do if it is meaningless and doesn't make you any happier within. OR DOES IT? StyleZ, remove yourself MojoJojo, I'll reply properly later - but atleast you got the point!

25-05-2009, 19:52	#11 (permalink)
StyLeZ Forum Addict! Location: in the streetz Gender: Male Country: Posts: 1,751 My Mood: Rep Power: 107 Rep Level:	lol this topic still makes no sense to me.. ill just do wat queen told me 2 do aint i nice?

25-05-2009, 20:35	#15 (permalink)
M4RN1 Bad Hair Day? Use A Comb! Location: Kingdom Heven Age: 24 Gender: Male Country: Posts: 11,082 My Mood: I have 7 Blog Entries Rep Power: 425 Rep Level:	No problems, i always had judgements and assumptions thrown at me, I'll take this one on the cheek "Si Vis Pacem, Para Bellum". [De profundis clamo ad te domine]

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