Being good to the bad?

**LuBz** · 06-08-2007, 19:10

If there was someone who did wrong to you, then turned to you for help, what would you do?

Now youz don't need to know my life story lol but the reason I've brought this up is because I've come home from work today to find my mum getting one phone call after another from a family member. This member has literally pucked up our family.. That's a whole different story but the point is what he did was bad.. Really bad. But we've never confronted him about it properly because.. Well thats also a different story

BUT knowing what he has done, the pain and trouble he's caused us.. I feel angry at the fact that he's got the cheek to turn around and ask my mum for help because he's in need now? My first reaction was tell him where to go.. But I saw the look on my mums face.. She could never do that. Then when I thought about it I realised I wouldn't be able to if I was in her position..

He is going through a bad time and I do feel sorry for him.. But at the same time it takes the piss having to ignore everything he's done to us..

If someone had done something this bad to you what would you do? Would u help them out? Or would you be like Pshhh do 1 kinda thing..?

**Lucy** · 06-08-2007, 19:17

well i wudnt help them,to b fair i have in the past with some ppl,but its come to a point where ive realised that ppl like them are just out 4 themselves

so in future i dont think im gona bother

**LuBz** · 06-08-2007, 19:22

Originally Posted by mad1

well i wudnt help them,to b fair i have in the past with some ppl,but its come to a point where ive realised that ppl like them are just out 4 themselves

so in future i dont think im gona bother

U wouldn't feel bad turnin ur back on someone? Even family?

**DJ Popz** · 06-08-2007, 19:24

Aww daym these situations can be psychologically so hammering... In one hand you are so frustrated at them and don't want anything to do with them.. and on the other hand you do feel for them because of the situation they are in.. so what do you do?

I think at the end of the day the way to look at this is to think do you want to become like them and cause grief to them or turn away from them just when they need your help because they were difficult to you in the past? No we show mercy to them and show them that you are not like them and never will be and help them putting aside what they have done to you.. and through that they might just realise how wrong they have been to you and seek forgiveness from you and possibly change their ways for the better... If that makes any sense?

PS. Justice always prevails in the end

**LuBz** · 06-08-2007, 19:28

Originally Posted by CrazYt™

Aww daym these situations can be psychologically so hammering... In one hand you are so frustrated at them and don't want anything to do with them.. and on the other hand you do feel for them because of the situation they are in.. so what do you do?

I think at the end of the day the way to look at this is to think do you want to become like them and cause grief to them or turn away from them just when they need your help because they were difficult to you in the past? No we show mercy to them and show them that you are not like them and never will be and help them putting aside what they have done to you.. and through that they might just realise how wrong they have been to you and seek forgiveness from you and possibly change their ways for the better... If that makes any sense?

PS. Justice always prevails in the end

That's what I mean if you turn away from someone in need does that not make you a bad person? Funny thing is there are some people who come to you time and time again.. U help them everytime.. Then when everything's good wit them, they backstab u again. Jus like this person. Lol.. Treat u like fools really. Hmm..

**soldierx** · 06-08-2007, 19:33

Originally Posted by LuBz

If there was someone who did wrong to you, then turned to you for help, what would you do?

Now youz don't need to know my life story lol but the reason I've brought this up is because I've come home from work today to find my mum getting one phone call after another from a family member. This member has literally pucked up our family.. That's a whole different story but the point is what he did was bad.. Really bad. But we've never confronted him about it properly because.. Well thats also a different story

BUT knowing what he has done, the pain and trouble he's caused us.. I feel angry at the fact that he's got the cheek to turn around and ask my mum for help because he's in need now? My first reaction was tell him where to go.. But I saw the look on my mums face.. She could never do that. Then when I thought about it I realised I wouldn't be able to if I was in her position..

He is going through a bad time and I do feel sorry for him.. But at the same time it takes the piss having to ignore everything he's done to us..

If someone had done something this bad to you what would you do? Would u help them out? Or would you be like Pshhh do 1 kinda thing..?

Attention!

He who does bad now! bad will happen to him!

He who overcomes the past will reap the benefits in the here after!

---X---

**LuBz** · 06-08-2007, 19:35

Originally Posted by soldierx

Attention!

He who does bad now! bad will happen to him!

He who overcomes the past will reap the benefits in the here after!

---X---

True say.. Wise words soldier ji..

...Don't stop it takin the pish tho

**soldierx** · 06-08-2007, 19:38

Originally Posted by LuBz

True say.. Wise words soldier ji..

...Don't stop it takin the pish tho

Attention!

Young comrade!

In my posts there is no room for sarcasm!

---X---

**Lucy** · 06-08-2007, 19:40

Originally Posted by LuBz

U wouldn't feel bad turnin ur back on someone? Even family?

no i wudnt

n as 4 family

the less sed bout mine the better

u know ppl who aint blood are better off

and yea i totally agree with soilder x

**LuBz** · 06-08-2007, 19:40

Originally Posted by soldierx

Attention!

Young comrade!

In my posts there is no room for sarcasm!

---X---

lol that's not sarcasm its the truth. Yes everyone will get what they deserve in the end, and I guess that's what we've got to keep in mind. BUT u gotta admit its damn rude to do that to someone

**Guji-Ji** · 06-08-2007, 19:52

Id say do good. Cos theres always a chance doing good to someone back can make them good.

**DJ Popz** · 06-08-2007, 20:04

Originally Posted by LuBz

That's what I mean if you turn away from someone in need does that not make you a bad person? Funny thing is there are some people who come to you time and time again.. U help them everytime.. Then when everything's good wit them, they backstab u again. Jus like this person. Lol.. Treat u like fools really. Hmm..

Aah ryt I was under the impression it was the first time they came for help...

In the case where they come to you for help time after time whenever they in trouble and forget about you and backstab you and make you out to be like fools.. I would be very reluctant to help them... I suppose it really depends on the situation they are in, as in like are they in deeep trouble so much so that their life depends on you.. if not and they can go somewhere else for refuge, then let them go to that somewhere else as they have shown that they are not genuinely in need of ur help and are just out to take the micky and make things worse.

But in the instance where they have nowhere else to turn but yourself, then in that case you wouldn't really have much of a choice but to help them but at the same time I would remind them that they are lucky to have someone to turn to and that if they are pulling a fast one then you would think twice about helping them ever again...

Well that's what I would do anyway..

**LuBz** · 06-08-2007, 20:15

Yeah ur right crazy..shexi..baybehh..

Gotta let them know where they stand..

Guji if only life was that simple! lol

**Zero** · 06-08-2007, 20:28

What would I do? It depends on how much hes done to your family.

To be honest, Id show him the door if it was pretty bad. Yes, it is a tricky situation, but Im sorry the person shouldve thought of consequences first before his problems came up.

It takes a whole lifetime to form a string of good relationships with all family members. It takes just one second for sumone to cut that string.

And it will take more than a lifetime for that string to be formed again in the exact same "bonds" that it was first created.

It may be harsh, but thats my solid viewpoint.

**PaKi PwInCeSs** · 06-08-2007, 20:35

Hmm depends on a few things well it wuld for me.. 1) How close this family member is and 2) What they did..

But id seriously think about it.. I mean its easy for a person 2 break off all realtions from a family member and its only when that certain family member needs somethink they come running back.. Would they have come 2 ur mum if they didnt need this help..?

Would this person do the same for u or for ur mum if you was in there situation and you went to them for help?!